Out of the Ordinary: the sacred in the mundane

I enter the Japanese Garden through the Shinto Gateway, the Torii, which marks a transition from the mundane to the sacred. This morning, I’m not looking for the sacred but simply a place to rest my eyes, mind, and body. This particular Torii resides in Stanley Park, in the Western Massachusetts town of Westfield, what I have dubbed the “middle America of New England,” where conservative values, working-class families and businesses, community spirit, and the American dream appear to be embraced with gusto.

Beyond the gateway, robed in every shade of green, lies a perfectly proportioned landscape. Thoughtfully placed benches, most sporting plaques in memory of departed loved ones or honored benefactors, nestle in shady patches. Smooth and jagged stones are strategically placed to delight the eye. Manicured trees, reminiscent of bonsai, glow green in the early morning sun. Flowing Japanese-style structures blend with the scenery. Simply elegant bridges span bubbling streams.

I stroll lazily, framing the natural beauty in my lens, noticing the coolness of the air on my skin, hearing the burbling brooks, and delighting in the shapes, sounds, and freshness around me.

A middle-aged woman in a floppy sunhat, sweating from the exertion, pushes a large stroller along the path. A grandmother with twins, I think. I say good morning, wanting to acknowledge that we are sharing this earthly space. I had consciously decided to greet each person I met this morning, looking them openly in the eyes. She pauses and responds. I notice that it is not children, but a white-snouted dog enclosed in the mesh stroller. I compliment her on the ingenuity of this arrangement, and she explains with a fond smile that her old dog enjoys the outdoors comfortably while she gets her morning workout.

I wander downward to the floor of a small valley and along the edge of a dancing stream. Ahead of me, a young mother with her toddler son uses the activity paper she picked up on the way into the park to point out rocks, water, plants, insects, and squirrels. Her bare arms are tattooed colorfully, and I bristle momentarily. But my curiosity overcomes my distaste, and I wonder what has caused her to decorate her body thus. I’ll Google later, I promise myself, and ask why tattoos are so popular these days.

Following the brook, I come to The Braille Walk—a short section of the path set off by a knotted rope. Next to each knot is a sign in English and Braille describing what a blind traveler might hear, smell, or sense in her immediate surroundings. I think how lovely, how inclusive.

It’s quiet, uncrowded, bright, clear and cool. A waterfall rushes joyfully down into the first of two large artificial ponds, turning a waterwheel on its way. Ducks swim passively. Single parents with single children wander aimlessly. Canadian geese, who had been feeding in the field beyond a few moments ago, fly honking noisily overhead and land gracefully among the unfazed ducks. A sign begs the guests in this welcoming corner of the earth not to feed bread to the birds, causing disease and death, but instead, to buy a small handful of proper food for fowl to cast on the waters.

A wooden boardwalk borders the upper and lower ponds. Like other wanderers, I peer over its railings to the brownish depths below, startled by what I find. Dozens of enormous koi, speckled white, black, and red, swim lazily along the shore, looking for a handout. They weave past each other endlessly and gracefully, parting the muddy waters. I stand, relaxed and delighted, wishing for someone to share this perfect moment in time and space—longing for someone beside me, to echo my smile and look deeply into my eyes, reflecting what I see, knowing what I know. But life has taught me no one sees exactly what I see and feels what I feel, so I pull back inside myself and gaze at the large, lumbering fish, appreciating their patience and calmness.

Two dogs pass each other and me on a bridge; one is a large boxer whose owner mumbles to it urgently in a foreign language. The other, serene and beautiful in its sleek black and white body, sniffs my leg as it passes. Good morning, I say to its owner, and he responds in kind. I tell him his dog is beautiful, and he says thank you.

Pads crowd the lily pond, but no lilies. I walk over its arched stone bridge and into the bright, undappled sunlight, away from the tended, managed, perfectly curated gardens and water features along the path to the wilderness sanctuary. This stretch is even quieter, except for the mild and unintrusive hum of distant traffic. Trees shade the way, but a closely trimmed lawn carpets an intentional clearing near the entrance. The sun beams down on the dew-laden grass. I think it is the perfect place for a picnic, but move on.

I meet no one. The river meanders on my left. The path slopes down. Mud from the recent rain makes it necessary to pay attention to where I place my feet. I come to an opening in the trees, a collection of large rocks on the riverbank, and stop, knowing I must turn and retrace my steps before my aching back, tired legs, and the slight chill on my skin strain my enjoyment of this place.

And so, I do turn, walk up the gentle slope, back past the sun-warmed clearing, across the stone bridge, up several tiers of terraced steps, and towards the rose garden at the top of the hill.

I need to use the toilet. I skirt the party venue, the concert venue, the manicured gardens of brightly colored annuals, the rose gardens far past their prime, and the formal fountain. I arrive at the spotless restrooms, where I relieve the building pressure in my aging bladder.

Relaxed again, I walk back the way I came. As I pass the wedding venue, I see two middle-aged Indian women in Saris and hear them chatting in their native language. The nearby clock tower tolls the half hour. Beneath it, a family of tourists takes photos of itself and speaks excitedly in what, Polish?

Again, I slowly and cautiously descend the stone stairway, which minutes ago I climbed, to the bottom of the narrow valley, to the ponds, the waterfalls, the streams, ducks, koi, and geese. A cluster of families with young children gathers on the pathway to the covered bridge—a gaggle of geese and kids are making an awful commotion. I pick my way between them, careful to avoid goose splat, pass through the coolness of the shaded bridge, and climb up the other side of the valley, wending my way back to the Japanese Garden for one last glimpse of order before I depart. A family sits on a ledge overlooking the falling water—an elderly man in a wheelchair decked out in sweatpants and slippers, a husband and wife, and a small child. I wonder if this is a Sunday morning outing for Dad, who may live in a nearby nursing home. Again, good morning, I say, and they smile.

Tired, satiated, and quiet within, I approach the end of my stroll—the Torii Gate, where I began. I sit briefly on a sun-warmed bench overlooking Stanley Park, a modern-day Eden where the ordinary and the extraordinary are interwoven. I think of the words from the creation myth in Genesis, chapter one. “God saw everything God had made, and it was good.”  I also think of the part of the story that tells us we are destined to tend and care for, protect, enhance, and love the goodness of which we are an integral part. I breathe in the variety, the abundance, the freshness, the vitality surrounding me in that ordinary moment, and it is, indeed, supremely good.

(Thank you to Nancy S., who encouraged me to write about this sacred moment.)

Respect amid a Pandemic

Those who try to find something positive amid turmoil, danger, or suffering are often considered Polyanna-ish.  Those who know me know I am not in the least so. I agree that the Coronavirus pandemic is a dangerous, frightening, confusing, and painful situation for people all over the world, and I too would frown on any suggestion that there is a silver lining in such an ominous cloud. 

However, there is an opportunity, and it is the same one offered to us after 9/11, 2001, and which we, for the most part, ignored.

We have the real opportunity (taking advantage of the genuine social isolation thrust upon us) to look deeply into ourselves, the chance to consider the trends in our societies, economies, politics/policies, and religions that have brought us to this moment in history.  There are sages, pundits, analysts, historians, scientists, and psychologists, you will say, who can do this work far better than I/you can – I the ordinary citizen of my town, state, and country, the average inhabitant of this world. True.  But the kind of radical change we need to prevent us from destroying ourselves and our planet must also happen within our hearts.

Our leaders and experts ask us to distance ourselves from others at this time, to withdraw from crowded places, to stay at home.  I respectfully suggest that we take this opportunity to savor a degree of solitude (or at least a slowing of our frantic pace of life) and use it to turn inward and ask ourselves the big questions that we so often avoid.

“Is she going to tell me what those questions are,” you wonder?  No, the questions that are important for you will arise within your own heart, mind, and life if you are quiet, still, and attentive. “There is a time and a season for every activity under the heavens…” (Ecclesiastes 3:1) Is now the time to search our souls?

Last night I was talking on the phone with a close friend who said at the end of our conversation, “We will get through this, I know.  We will be okay.” I agree that most people will come through this present danger and be all right. But will we survive it to be wiser, more compassionate, and more aware of our interconnectedness, and our interdependence? Will we be more grateful for one another, more respectful of our differences, and more aware of the needs of each other and the earth? The magnitude of this crisis, one that many of us in my generation in the United States have not encountered before, will change us.  But how will we be changed?  Will we be more fearful, more distant, more judgmental, more blaming?

Or can we sit quietly, getting in touch with our most authentic, most vulnerable, and tender selves?  And can we acknowledge that others who may be different from us may also embody truth? That others also feel vulnerable and hurt and long for a resurgence of tenderness, respect, and hope.

This morning I read the following in an article entitled, “How Not to Freak Out,”by Judy Lief in Lion’s Roar.

“In any individual life, there are easier and harder times. Circumstances are always changing. They change slowly and inexorably, and they change suddenly and unexpectedly.  Often, we see our own hand in the circumstances we experience, and sometimes we are blindsided by situations beyond our control…

There seem to be only two alternatives: the glass is half full or the glass is half empty. But a glass with water up to the midpoint is not making a statement either way.  It is neither half full nor half empty. Neither is it both half full and half empty.  Such a water glass is not elated by being half full, nor discouraged by being half empty.  It just is: a glass with water in it.

The world just is. It is not a this-versus-that, good-versus-bad world.  It is an interdependent world….”

…a world that is constantly changing and continuously offering us the opportunity to change along with it; to see beauty, to be kind, to offer respect, to adopt new attitudes, and learn new habits. We are sorely in need of some new perspectives and patterns of behavior. We have been brought up short by this pandemic.  Let us take some time to stop, look around us and within ourselves, and listen deeply to the voice of our humanity.

As a child in Sunday School, I sang the hymn “Brighten the Corner Where You Are.”  For most of my life, I have thought its injunction overly simplistic.  Age and experience have taught me to value and embrace the simple. Forgive me for quoting only the verses with which I agree and that serve my purpose.

Brighten the corner where you are!
Brighten the corner where you are!
Someone far from harbor you may guide across the bar;
Brighten the corner where you are!
Do not wait until some deed of greatness you may do,
Do not wait to shed your light afar,
To the many duties ever near you now be true,
Brighten the corner where you are.
Just above are clouded skies that you may help to clear.
Let not narrow self your way debar.
Though into one heart alone may fall your song of cheer,
Brighten the corner where you are.
Here for all your talent you may surely find a need,
Here reflect the bright and Morning Star;
Even from your humble hand the Bread of Life may feed,
Brighten the corner where you are.
-Ina D. Ogdon published 1913

Planting Ourselves Again in the Universe

Uprooted
(photo by Moriah Freeman)

” We must get back into relation, vivid and nourishing relation to the cosmos and the universe….For the truth is, we are perishing for lack of fulfillment of our greater needs, we are cut off from the great sources of our inward nourishment and renewal, sources which flow eternally in the universe. Vitally, the human race is dying.  It is like a great uprooted tree, with its roots in the air.  We must plant ourselves again in the universe.”

          ~D.H. Lawrence, 1931, in “A propos of Lady Chatterly’s Lover”